Look outside! It’s that time of year that we all love. The birds are chirping, the pollen in the air is making us sneeze, and the days are becoming longer. The winter has melted away, but for some, the feeling of winter is still present. For some of us, the winter is a time of mental suffering caused by seasonal affective disorder. For many, the feel of winter is still present, and the first person we meet may have been in distress the last several months.
The symptoms of SAD begin to subside around this time of year, and a recently depressed neighbor may be struggling to get back into the community. What can we do to help someone who may be suffering in silence? We can help and support them through compassion. Compassion can be defined as the feelings that arise when one individual witnesses another individual’s suffering. Compassion can also be defined as the motivation that prompts our desire to help. Compassion can help us connect to others, mend relationships, and move forward in life.
The impact of Covid-19 has been widespread. Its conditions have forced many people to experience psychotic distress that could lead to depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder. Statistics taken in 2023 have shown that a vast number of the U.S. population experience mentally distressing symptoms daily and only 10% of the population sought a means to adequately address the symptoms. Because they failed to act, many have chosen to suffer in silence. How do we help these individuals…with compassion? The embodiment and the essence of compassion promote human dignity and concern for the well-being of others. True compassion in the community uplifts and promotes the importance of the uniqueness of all people.
One of the most significant issues is that we don’t know who is or has been suffering. Therefore, it would be a good practice to approach all of our neighbors with honor and respect. Many tend to forget that simple traits and skills go a long way. Romans 12:10 insists that we “love each other with genuine affection and to take delight in honoring each other.” Respect can be demonstrated through consideration and value for others. One who values and honors others is capable of showing compassion and support.
What does compassion and support in the community look like? Because people are different, compassion and support will look different. A few things can be done universally to help people in the community. Being a good listener is a supportive trait that shows compassion. Sometimes, individuals who are suffering want to be genuinely heard. Giving someone space to talk and listening to their feelings can be comforting.
Another effective method that could reinforce listening is to offer reassurance. Reassurance can be simply letting them know that they are not alone and that help can be available. Individuals who are taking the helping role should try to stay calm. Sometimes, it is difficult to hear of the misfortunes of others. Feelings are interchangeable, and our calm can encourage others. Being patient is helpful as well. Sometimes, individuals may not lead with pertinent information, and it may take time to get the understanding needed to help. Patience is much needed because to lose patience is to lose the battle.
In our efforts as good Samaritans, it is inevitable that we will encounter others who may need our help. The final step to help someone is to encourage them to seek help. The help that we can give may only go so far. Resources beyond our help are always available to those in need.
George Ishman knew at an early age he wanted to be an advocate for change and an inspiration for individuals who live in communities facing economic challenges. Ishman received his undergraduate degree in English from ASU in 2017, where he graduated Cum Laude. He obtained his Master of Science Degree in Counseling and Psychology from Troy University in 2021. As a new counselor, George is looking forward to helping clients find solutions and resources that will support their efforts to achieve their optimal level of functioning. George provides Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Behavioral Modification Therapy, and Supportive Therapy for adults and adolescents.